Try using a wooden perch to get him to step up. once he is used to stepping up on the wooden prech then swich to your hand.

Once you do get him up take him COMPLETELY out of view of his cage. You'll find that most birds that are aggressive are much calmer when they can't see their cages.

Hi ,
Alfie is still a little unsure about stepping up but still trying ,however he has started to fly and land on one of my daughters head everytime she enters the room and he will follow her around his cage is this a sign of affection ? we have owned him now 4 wks so he is getting braver each day yesterday he landed on the cat who is 16 so was oblivious to him .

It can be a sign of affection... though sometimes birds will also follow someone they don't like to an attempt to stay between that person and their toys or whatever they are protecting.
I would try to discourage head perching until he steps up well and will step up off her head for her. I have a budgie who prefers to land on heads because they offer a larger landing area - but he is always happy to step up and in fact will usually climb down to my hand if I leave him on my head. If your grey does not step up well you may have problems with head perching as he may realize she can't reach him well up there and may show aggression, or he may simply get his feet tangled in hair if he sits up there for long.
Try making stepping up very enjoyable to him - try giving him treats form your hand and talking to him a lot when he's perched on your hand.



Karen
Chico (conure) and Pippin (budgie)
WI

Hi ,thanks for the reply i think it is a sign of affection although he will now fly and land nearer to us and landed on my other daughter .I have to admit i am still a little nervous of offering my hand for him to step up and i know he will sense this i bought a perch similar to his to start the process and he gets very aggitated with this ,i know its just time and patience with him .But thanks for the advice and anymore tips you may have would be very much appreciated